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Three Words That Make Relationships Better

Submitted by Pravs J on Saturday, 7 March 200919 Comments

Three Words That Make Relationships Better

 

Three-Word Phrases, can be tools to help develop every relationship. 

There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have soured.

The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

~    Let me help:
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

~  I understand you:
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many  little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.

~  I respect you:
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal.  If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends.  This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

~  I miss you:
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other “I miss you.”  This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.  Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say “I miss you.”

~  Maybe you’re right:
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument.  The implication when you say “maybe you’re right” is the humility of admitting, “maybe  I’m wrong”.  Let’s face it.  When you have an argument with someone,  all you normally do is solidify the other person’s point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you.  Saying “maybe you’re right” can open the door to explore the subject more.  You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person. 

~ Please forgive me:
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

~  I thank you:
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of  friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

~  Count on me:
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship.  It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating “you can count on me.”

~   I’ll be there:
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase “I’ll be there.” Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us.  We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

~  Go for it:
We are all unique individuals. Don’t try to get your friends to conform to your ideals.  Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you.  God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams.  Tell them to “go for it.”

~  I love you:
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person’s deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse,  your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words: “I love you.”  Love is a choice.  You can love even when the feeling  is gone.

19 Comments »

  • smita said:

    wow…thanks…

    - 8 March 2009 at 12:32 pm
  • Eliane Cerchiari said:

    This is superb, because it summarized( kind of…rsrrs) all the attitudes one can develop, and everybody can, once he/she decides to get along well with people, and when, altogether, one decides to set aside selfish feelings that lead a person to see only his/her own ego forgetting that in order to see his/her own ego in all its fullness one must include the other: the companion, the spouse, the son, the daughter, the parents, the friends, the neighbour, the boss, the colleagues at work, the subordinates….and so on, the list is endless…….when a person realizes how much more complete he/she becomes when considering the others as he/she considers himself/herself, one will surely be a more gratified, understanding, whole and happy person…

    Congrats Pravs J for the excellent chance of self-improvement you opend up to us all!

    - 8 March 2009 at 1:11 pm
  • Anita Gracias said:

    This is so beautifully expressed. I agree with everything that you have said in this piece! All it takes is 3 words to heal an emotional wound, to rebuild a bridge, to mend broken relationship…
    That is the power and beauty of words!
    The written word is more powerful than a sword!

    - 8 March 2009 at 8:19 pm
  • Palaniraj said:

    Good to read

    - 9 March 2009 at 4:59 am
  • Sabita said:

    Real good one!

    - 10 March 2009 at 3:42 am
  • Avereen said:

    Superb Pravs……

    - 10 March 2009 at 6:31 am
  • Sanjana said:

    I go with all the above phrases but only this bit is not clear enough ” Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling is gone.” How can one love in the absence of feeling???

    - 11 March 2009 at 12:40 am
  • rain drop said:

    all are correct
    but i wounder how can someone love when feeling is gone ??

    - 13 March 2009 at 10:40 am
  • Ravindra Joshi said:

    I need you. ( Does not make you helpless.)

    - 24 March 2009 at 2:35 pm
  • Pretty said:

    This has just made me re-evaluate my failed relationship. I realised that the only thing that was missing was “Please Forgive Me”, that’s the only thing we needed to make it work.

    - 31 March 2009 at 2:38 pm
  • Ananth said:

    Thank you for sharing such profound thoughts.

    - 1 April 2009 at 4:47 pm
  • sunita k said:

    too good and very very true.

    - 2 April 2009 at 10:25 am
  • Maria said:

    What can I say?
    Only that you are a beautiful star that illuminates the World with your brightness.
    Thank you for share with all of us the greatness of your Beeing!
    (excuse for my bad english ;)

    - 3 April 2009 at 3:51 pm
  • Rosen said:

    Wow, its all true. Im now blessed. hope my marriage is not going to face any problems again

    - 6 April 2009 at 1:35 am
  • Saravanan said:

    Excellent! I thank you

    - 10 April 2009 at 7:03 am
  • veena charan said:

    this is superb………..

    - 11 April 2009 at 3:42 pm
  • Deepak said:

    Too good….
    Absolutely very true and inspirational…

    - 16 April 2009 at 2:10 pm
  • VanAnh said:

    thanks soooo much for submitting this^^

    - 24 April 2009 at 7:06 am
  • Arwa said:

    Thank you so much…this is Excellent…!

    - 24 April 2010 at 11:38 am

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